Childhood Trauma in Adults Who "Turned Out Fine": Why Functioning Is Not Healing

You had a roof, food, parents who stayed — so you filed it away. It wasn't that bad. You turned out fine. And by every visible measure you did. Which is exactly why the tiredness underneath, the one sleep never touches, makes so little sense. Turning out fine and healing are not the same thing. Sometimes turning out fine is the most sophisticated thing a wounded child ever learned to do.